- We all tend to believe to some degree that "success" will bring fulfillment and happiness. This leads to the Performance Trap, which has us accepting the false belief that I must meet certain standards to feel good about myself.
- Those who fall into the Performance Trap who have a tendency to base their self-worth on their ability to accomplish a goal, or to be efficient/effective in their use of time.
- In addition, they avoid certain activities, relationships and risks because their fear of failure is too great. The fear of failure can manifest itself in a variety of responses including Perfectionism, Avoiding Risk, Anger/Resentment, Pride, Depression, Addiction to Success and others.
- The focus on the Christian life should be on Christ, not on self-imposed regulations. Our experience of Christ's lordship is dependent on our moment-by-moment attention to His instruction, not on our own regimented schedule.
Questions that we will discuss this week at Tuesday at 7am and Friday at 6:30am include:
- Why do we sometimes tolerate failure in another person but cannot tolerate it in ourselves?
- How much different would your life be if it were not for the fear of failure?
- Are there any perfectionists out there? Do any of you occasionally base your self-worth on an ability to accomplish a goal or on the efficient/effective use of your time? Does your perfectionism ever suffocate your joy and creativity?
- Take the fear of failure test on page 34 (my copy), how did you score? What category did you end up in and which questions did you score lowest on?
- Does your fear of failure ever drive you toward anger or resentment toward someone else who may have hindered your success? Of the people you have anger toward, how many of those individuals are associated with some failure about which you feel bad?
- Has there been a time in your life where your identity was wrapped up in your success (or failure)?
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