- Basing our self-worth on what we believe others think of us causes us to become addicted to their approval.
- We have a tendency to spend much of our time building relationships, striving to please people and win their respect. And yet, after all of our sincere, conscientious effort, it takes only one unappreciative word from someone to ruin our sense of self-worth.
- Turning to others for what only God can provide is a direct result of our acceptance of the lie: Self Worth = Performance + Other People’s Opinions.
- Gal 1:10 – For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I string to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ – We can ultimately seek either the approval of men or the approval of God as the basis of our self-worth.
Questions that we will discuss this week at Tuesday at 7am and Friday at 6:30am include:
- Are you adversely affected by anyone’s disrespect or disapproval?
- Has loneliness currently or ever been a major problem in your life?
- Take the Fear of Rejection Test, how did you do? Did this chapter heighten any awareness of this issue in your life?
- How have you used disapproval, silence, sarcasm or criticism to get others to do what you wanted them to do?
- How have you seen managers/leaders in your work life or in the public eye utilize rejection and guilt to manipulate people? How does this contrast with the "Lead Like Jesus" model we studied last book?
- Did you experience rejection in any way in your family life? Are you aware of any tendencies you have in responded to rejection? (e.g. sarcasm, anger, bitterness, etc)
- The book describes a common way of coping with the fear of rejection as avoiding others, or those who hide behind a wall of words, smiles and activities. How can we as Christians demonstrate a willingness to know others more deeply to break down these barriers?
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